Yet again, I’m having a rant, but this time, it’s not exactly personal.
Today, I found a video on Facebook as I was scrolling through, and it made me both angry and proud. Angry, because the topic of the video, proud because of the way it was handled. There was a video of Iskra Lawrence, reacting to being fat shamed. And for the love of God, that woman is not fat, the is a bloody Goddess, and no, not at all a ‘Plus Sized Model’ because she is a size 14, while the average in the UK is a size 16. A plus sized model should be classed as somebody above the average, should they not? She is a beautiful woman, and a woman who works out pretty damn hard, and remains at a 14. This woman is curvy, her figure is a typical hourglass, and god damn does he flaunt it. This woman is body goals for so many people, and I’m honestly not surprised. The picture of her lying in junk food? I love her even more than I already did for that. And it also shows, her body is pretty damn perfect. But no, due to the standards shown by the media in today’s society, a size 10 model in some cases is considered plus size, and is not at all ‘perfect’. Feeling a little sick yet, because I sure as hell am.
You know what, I’ll go there and bring it back: Nicole Abor fat shaming Ashley Graham for her Sports Illustrated cover. Fat? Ashley is again, about a size 14: a UK 14 is an American size 12, I believe, so even if she was a US 14, she’d still be the average size in the UK of a 16, so no, she too is not a plus sized model: she’s the average weight. And think of it this way: Graham posts many videos of herself working out and being healthy. Fitness is not all about shape, size and weight. Arbor really needs to open her bloody eyes and see that although “Sports Illustrated Swimsuit models are the mecca of physical perfection when it comes to modeling”, physical perfection can come in different shapes and sizes, and beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Not gonna lie to you: to me, Arbor looks like a clown tryna be a Barbie, while the women she is criticising look like Goddesses to me and actually real: not fake and covered in slap. And “It’s OK to have standards. I hope they’ll make lots of money, and I hope that young girls don’t start eating junk food to look like the one.” So you know what, Arbor? My standards are to not fat or skinny shame people and to let people be comfortable in their own skin… even if they do make their skin look like a hooker clown 😉
You can be bigger and be a strong, fit, athletic person. I have a little extra padding on me but I’m actually pretty fit: I can handle flights of stairs better than some of my tiny bodied friends who you would expect to be fitter. I know I’m not exactly a big girl- depending on what part of my body we’re talking about, I could be an 8 or a 12/14, but I think as a human being with actual sense, I can have an opinion on this. So don’t go thinking that bigger people aren’t fit, or athletic, because it has nothing to do with it.
But, on the flip side, skinny people shouldn’t be shamed either. Some people are naturally completely tiny bodied, and just don’t gain weight, and those people shouldn’t be shamed either. I know some people who just eat a mass of junk food in an attempt to gain weight, and you know what? They lose it. Some people cannot help being skinny, and while yes, bigger people shouldn’t be shamed and should be proud of the skin they’re in, you don’t bring other people down in your place. Yes, a lot of models are incredibly skinny: whether that be because they eat ice-cubes for breakfast or whether they’re just that shape naturally, I don’t know. But some people actually cannot gain weight, no matter how hard they try, and these people shouldn’t be shamed. For health reasons, some people have to go on diets: for example, arthritis in legs can result in some people having to be very skinny and light so not too much pressure is put on their bodies. Those people shouldn’t be shamed either.
Yes: a lot of skinny people may lead young girls and boys to starve themselves to reach that goal that the media sees as ‘perfection’. I’ve been there and done that, I know that seeing these women who are so tiny did effect me. But you know what else effected me? My own friends at the time saying I’d be pretty if I lost a little weight, because they had seen so many skinny women. And not gonna lie to you, I hit puberty pretty early, so the hips and curves had come in by the time I was nearly 11. It influences more than the person seeing the images: it also effects the views of people around them, which can inflict the image onto others. I wish there were more curvy models a few years back: I’m nearly 18, and when 11, I wasn’t seeing the more average weight women. This is a recent thing, and I love it.
You cannot judge somebody based on shape. You cannot judge somebody based on size. You cannot judge somebody based on weight. Think of it this way: the most athletic people will weigh more than the average person because of the fact that muscle is more dense, so will mean that the person weighs more. So judging somebody based on weight is ridiculous. While judging somebody based on shape is also moronic because everyone is a different shape. You can be a size 8 hourglass, or a size 16 hourglass. You can be a size 6 pear shape or a size 20 pear shape. You cannot judge somebody based on size, shape or weight, so the shaming needs to stop.
Basically, the shaming needs to stop. Every person is beautiful in their own way: no matter if you’re skinny or big, tiny or tall, no matter what your ethnicity, if you’re covered in tattoos or your skin in a blank canvas, if you look like a Barbie clown or rock a bare faced look. You are beautiful; it’s what is on the inside that counts. The shell is simply that: a shell. What you should judge and shame is what is on the inside: what you are like as a person is what actually matters. The shell and casing just a bonus, so why shame it?
Stay safe and stay happy, Angels ❤